“Walking With Christ and Fighting Sexual Sin” is a 4 part blog series written by our very own Bill Rosenberger. These posts are directed towards Christians who are struggling in any way with sexual immorality. The process of our sanctification in Christ requires that sin be put to death and this is just one area where the battle against sin rages, but it is a battle being fought by a great number of people.
PLEASE NOTE: We have made every effort to use appropriate and God-pleasing vocabulary in these post, but we are still aware, based on the subject matter, that some of the language may be offensive to certain people. You have been warned.
By Bill Rosenberger
There are two definitions for lust listed in the dictionary. The first is an “intense or unrestrained sexual craving.” The second is an “intense eagerness or enthusiasm.”
When we define it as an unrestrained sexual craving, it can lead to pre-marital sex with a girlfriend or boyfriend, exploring a homosexual experience or even go as far as rape and murder.
For our generation, however, the unrestraint often leads us online, where we can take every possible restraint off our sexual craving and do so in a very private way.
Consider these statistics put out recently by OnlineSchools.org:
- 12 percent of all Internet sites are pornographic in nature. That’s more than 24.6 million.
- Every second, nearly $3,100 is spent for online porn and is being viewed by more than 28,000 people.
- 40 million Americans regularly visit pornographic sites.
- 8 percent of all emails sent daily, about 2.5 million, are pornographic in nature.
- 25 percent of all search engine requests each day, about 68 million, are porn related.
- $2.84 Billion is spent each year in theU.S.on pornography, up to $4.9 billion worldwide.
- 35 percent of all Internet downloads are pornographic.
- 116,000 searches are done online each day for child pornography.
- 20 percent of men and 13 percent of women admit to watching porn at work.
- The average age a child sees his or her first online pornographic image is 11.
- The most popular day of the week for viewing porn is Sunday.
Just numbers, right? Well, there are some very real faces to these stats, some of them right at Crew.
Consider the story of one member of Crew, who battled an addition with pornography for more than 10 years. He was able to hide it from his friends and his wife, all the while trying to stop. He thought life’s milestones would mark the end, but it was just the beginning of another chapter of struggle.
How about Stephen Arterburn, who authored “Every Man’sBattle” with Fred Stoeker. He starts the book with a story about the lust that was in his heart on his first wedding anniversary.
He says he never intentionally set out to be girl-watching that day, but “I spotted her about two hundred yards ahead and to the left. She was jogging toward me along the coastal sidewalk. From my sheepskin-covered leather seat, I found the view outstanding.”
Arterburn says nothing above the neckline registered with him that morning, as he was mesmerized by her gait.
“I turned my head further and further, craning my neck to capture every possible moment for my mental video camera. Then blam! I might still be marveling at this remarkable specimen … if my Mercedes hadn’t plowed into a Chevelle that had come to a complete stop in my lane.”
Arterburn goes on to say that he told his wife it was stop-and-go traffic and he had reached down to change the radio.
There’s another local man whose wife realized there was something going on when he was unable to be intimate with her because he had viewed pornography earlier in the day.
There’s Howard, a Sunday-school teacher whose story was included in “Every Man’s Battle.” Howard was in junior high when another boy told him about masturbation. Fifteen years later, he can’t get through a week without doing it, despite being married.
“I always thought marriage would take the desire away, but it isn’t any better, and I’m so ashamed. Not to much by the act itself, but by the things I think about and the movies I watch while doing it. I know it’s adulterous.”
And another man shared his story with a close Huntington friend about how he got his first look an adult magazine before he was even a teenager. That stirred up emotions and hormones long before they ever should have been. It led to a long battle with pornography that could have destroyed his marriage.
Father, please open our eyes to see that statistics can soften our emotions toward a problem if it’s not something we’re experiencing. Help us realize that lust and sexual sin is happening in our churches and in our homes. Give us the courage to say, “It’s time to put this sin to death.” In Jesus name. Amen.