Just wanted to link to a helpful article by Crew’s own Paul McNeely. It’s about what the Apostle Paul means in 2 Corinthians 6:14 when he says, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” Every Christian at Crew, especially the single guys and gals, need to consider Paul’s words (both McNeely and the Apostle). Read the article by clicking
A couple of points here: McNeely is spot on in his interpretation of 2 Corinthians 6:14-17. He says that being unequally yoked
…doesn’t just apply to marriage but also to dating or any other partnership where you are tied with an unbeliever for that matter. Marriage is such a tie, dating is such a tie, business partnerships are ties, contracts are ties; anything that bonds us with and unbeliever in some direct and close way that their beliefs are intertwined and affect yours.
Also, this is a great point:
Dating is about finding the individual that you may one day marry. Then why date someone you wouldn’t marry? … How is a woman to keep her faith and submit to a husband that doesn’t believe? How is a man to keep peace and love a wife that doesn’t believe and isn’t submissive? As husband and wife, can two truly become one if each half is walking a different direction?
This principle is Biblical. Amos 3:3 says, “Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?” Christians and non-Christians are walking different directions in life: one living to please and obey God; the other walking for self. You can’t walk with someone going another direction unless you change your directions.
A final point: Probably in no other area of life have I seen Christians so quick to rationalize and justify themselves than in this one area. Commonly-heard arguments I’ve heard include, “Well, she said she was a Christian…” or “I really feel called to date him so I can witness to him; if I don’t, who will?” (ah, the famous “missionary dater”!). But even to the most naive, their true motives are obvious: “I want to date who I want to date, so don’t question me or call me to account.” But someone who really loves the Lord Jesus will submit to Him in this area, even if it’s painful!
If you need help working through this, please bend the ear of one of our leaders, or a mature Christian friend. Let’s not disobey here; choosing a mate poorly has almost never ended well in my experience. A marriage of regret, cajoling and nagging for the non-Christian to change (not to mention resentment by the non-Christian because of the nagging!), and even divorce are just some of the fallout of this one bad choice.
Thanks, Paul, for pointing us to the Word in this area!